One of the most important things fathers can do to get the respect of his children is to admit when he is wrong. The old saying, “Do what I say, not what I do,” was never correct and was something parents used to get their children to do what they wanted and continue to misbehave themselves.

My children often accused me of always wanting to be right. The reason that is that in most cases parents are more often right than their children because children often just want to get their way and parents have to say no. I had often admitted error over the years so when they made this comment, I pointed out the times I admitted error and their argument was neutralized.

We teach by example. Children follow our example. If we want our children to admit error, then we need to do the same. We must model the behavior we expect.

Admitting error shows our kids that we are human and make mistakes. It makes it easier for them to admit they are human and make mistakes too.

The poem below says it better than I can. It is followed by a few quotes.

Setting the Example

Author Unknown

I’d rather see a sermon than hear one–any day.
I’d rather one should walk with me than merely show the way.
The eye’s a better pupil and more willing than the ear;
Fine counsel is confusing, but example is always clear.
The best of all the preachers are the men who live their creeds.
For, to see the good in action is what everybody needs.
I can say, I’ll learn how to do it if you’ll let me see it done;
I can watch your hand in action though your tongue too fast may run.
Although the lectures you deliver may be very wise and true.
I’d rather learn my lesson by observing what you do;
For I may misunderstand you and the fine advice you give.
But it’s no misunderstanding how you act and how you live.

“A leader leads by example, whether he intends to or not.”

“A good example has twice the value of good advice”

“A good example is the best sermon.” Benjamin Franklin

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice”